We had the good fortune of connecting with Philiscia Stubbs and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Philiscia, what’s the most important thing you’ve done for your children?
I believe the most important thing that I’ve done as a parent is instill in them the word of God. Not only did I instill in them the word of God, but I’ve also made sure to be that living example for them. I believe faith plays a big impact on how the direction of your life will go. It teaches you to never give up and keep pushing. It teaches you to have an attitude of expectancy that greater things are coming, as well as to be anchored in the promises of God. For my children they now have that push that no matter how things may look or how they’re going, to keep pressing forward. They never give up, because they know the only way that they can fail is, if they stop trying. My son always say, mom when you stop trying that means you’re lacking in your faith. He always reminds me in those down times mom remember as long as you have God, He will come through for you.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
I’m a co-author in a book called, “Lifting the Mask.” My portion in the book is called, “Still Usable.” It wasn’t easy for me to write my chapter, because it dealt with a lot of hurt, pain, rejection, trauma, physical, emotional, mental, and sexual abuse. However it also deals with how my healing came. How every time it seemed like death was after me, but God said not so. When writing this chapter, it was also difficult, because I didn’t want to hurt anyone else, that played apart in my story, by telling my story. I didn’t want to hurt those who hurt me, because that’s not my heart. However my spiritual mother Nicckay Natson, my husband Jamar Stubbs, my spiritual sister Ladonna Marie, and my mother Annie Eddings helped me to continue to go forth. That my story would help so many people. They pushed me to not give up, no matter how much I battled with not doing it. When I knew it was meant for me to write my chapter in the book, was when I begin to write. I saw a vision of God taking every word I was writing and beginning to lift my burden. I was finally able to release all that hurt, bitterness, and unforgiveness that I had held on to for so long. Not only that but I was able to lift my mask and stop hiding behind the shadows and this fake smile that I was ok, because finally I was actually ok. I felt like God freed me and for once in my life I felt so at peace. The lessons I learned through this, is that we have to stop hiding, we have to stop walking in fear and worrying about what people may think or say. I learned that, because I was operating in fear it left me stagnant and unable to move forward in my God give destiny. It’s taught me to be naked and unashamed, because that’s what people need to see. They need to see us in our mess and see how God brings us out of our mess. So that they too can know that if God did it for me, He can do it for them What I want the world to know, is that even in our mess. That God can still use us. He still deems us usable. He turns our mess into a message that would help so many people out there that’s been through the storms and trials of life. I want people through my story, to begin to dream again and believe in themselves. As well as be all that God has called them to be. Come out of the caves and come out of the shadows and walk in the fullness of the Lord.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
Honestly I’m such a home body. I really enjoy being at home with my family, because my love language is quality time. I believe time is one thing that I can’t get back, so I want to enjoy every bit of it with my family. I love nature so we take nature walks, so if there’s a place we love to go. It would be Dana Peak trail. It’s extremely peaceful and you get a nice like workout walking those trails. If we went to a restaurant I would take them to Fogo De Chão Brazilian Steakhouse in Austin, because you’re guaranteed to leave out well fed. If we went shopping it would definitely be the outlet malls in Round Rock, Texas.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I would definitely have to say my spiritual mother Apostle Nicckay Natson. She has played a tremendous part in my growth. She’s mentored me, pushed me, and never allowed me to give up. Everytime I tried to run, and took on that attitude that I can’t do something or let the lies of the enemy play with my mind that I’m not good enough. She doesn’t allow me to run, and she reminds me that I am good enough. According to the word of God. I actually co-authored in a book under Apostle Nicckay Natson, called “Lifting the Mask.” My portion in the book is called, “Still Usable.” Had it not been for her, being that willing vessel/ambassador for the Lord. I would’ve never done it. However I’m so thankful for that push that she gave me, to press forward. God used her to help push me into my destiny and for that I will be forever grateful and thankful for her.