We had the good fortune of connecting with Mistress Daria and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Mistress, can you walk us through the thought-process of starting your business?
When I decided to branch out and start my own bdsm playspace, my mindset was focused on creativity, fashion and photography. At the time my sole obsession was creating an environment that was rich in texture and color. My photoshoots were elaborately staged to stimulate curiosity and tell a story that evoked inquiry. As my creative efforts became quite expensive I found myself in a highly competitive state, as many new businesses owners do. Eventually as I settled into myself I became more focused on solving problems for my clients and less oriented to the ubiquitous nature of the pageantry of femdom. It has been my experience that creating something novel or addressing a problem that no one else will tackle, is indeed the essence of entrepreneurship. It is more rewarding to risk the failure of that venture than to simply employ yourself by doing what everyone else is doing to stabilize or continually increase your earning with no real purpose or mission attached to the effort. The difference between being a simple business owner vs being an entrepreneur is the emotional satisfaction of realizing full potential. In that state of flow-creating value, purpose and vitality- a small business owner can gain a scope of purpose that we all intrinsically search for in existing. Live to solve problems and you will automatically make money. Live to make money and you will burn out and most likely have none.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
One of the greatest challenges people first encounter becoming part of the bdsm community is the obvious dichotomy of abandoning rules. Immediately the fledgling Dominant or fetishist is accosted by those who wish to “show the way” and instruct on protocols. But didn’t you do this to slough off the norms, the rules… the taboos? So with the group pressure to conform which places your autonomy on the line, how then do you establish authority and influence without sacrificing your beliefs or your authenticity? Great question. There’s no easy answer. I stayed true to myself and accepted the consequences where they came. There were many and with each battle, I cast away what I didn’t need and allowed myself the flexibility to change to my circumstances while never allowing myself sacrifice my independence or accept anything that conflicted with my inner design. (To thine own self be true…) The losses prove beneficial in the long run, almost every time. You cannot win if you cheat yourself by conformity to a lie or to anything you know to be untrue. Use your influence to help people through creativity or to be creative themselves and you can benefit greatly. We exist to create and to celebrate. A focus on these aspects in any business is a universal language of comprehension of purpose. There is nothing more affirmative or fulfilling.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
This question is so loaded with potential I am overwhelmed. I’m a planner, so it would greatly depend on the individual and their proclivities. But if we are talking vanilla and bdsm places… I would want to plan an entire agenda based around hitting all the bases. I would definitely start with breakfast at breadwinners one of those days. Head down to the arts district to check out the DMA, Nasher and The Crow museums. Stroll through the water gardens and get lunch at one of the many amazing restaurants in Deep Ellum and roam the streets shopping there as well. Definitely would check out the grassy noll, the sixth floor museum at dealey Plaza and tour downtown. Then probably would head over to Reunion Tower for dinner reservations and exploring the scenic quality of the view from the tower. Would roam the Bishop Arts district and be sure to have drinks at The Meddlesome Moth to complete that day. Reservations at ZaZa hotel would be a must. A day full of spa treatments, followed by dinner at The Dragonfly and drinks by the pool afterwards would be most amazing when you can retire to one of their amazing suites afterwards and no drive home! I also would be compelled to take them to White Rock lane for a bike ride around the lake, then a trip to the Dallas Arboretum to enjoy nature and follow up that evening by a trip to the Pocket Sandwich Theatre. If they love getting dressed up dinner at Al Biernat’s followed by a Dallas Symphony Orchestra performance would hit the spot. And a drink at the Library in Oaklawn afterwards for sure. Many of the commercial dungeons have temporarily closed, but I would take them to any events hosted by Infliction Hall in Euless for us to have our fetish fun! Of course my private dungeon will also offer creative potential. A day of rejuvenation would be an order, so we would go sweat and relax and get a massage and other treatments at Kings Spa in Dallas. The water park attached will hopefully soon reopen!!! Depending on season, an overnight Stay at the Joule would be amazing, where we could have an amazing dinner at CBD Provisions and go bowling at the Statler afterwards. The next day enjoying their rooftop pool, exquisite cold brew made in Yamas and admiring the astonishing collection of Taschen oversized art and photography books in the gift shop would make for a terrific day. A perfect ending would be wandering the streets of Downtown Dallas, checking out local shopping and coffee shops. We wouldn’t want to leave out Fort Worth. Planning to eat lunch at H3 Ranch House, enjoying the Longhorns drive down the streets, watching the live street performances and catching a musical performance at The Bass Music Hall afterwards would be exciting. Probably should book a hotel and stay awhile, to enjoy the rich night life that downtown brick town has to offer. The next day we would check out Tandy Leather Museum, Overlands, Wilson’s and many other leather shops. Then head over to the Kimball and enjoy what exhibits they have to show. Then head on over to Cattleman’s for one last steak. I’ve probably worn them out at this point. So renting a boat on lake Ray Hubbard or Lake Lewisville and enjoying a day in the sun would be a welcome respite. Afterwards going to Sneaky Pete’s (if lake Lewisville) or Culpeppers Steakhouse (if lake Ray Hubbard) would make that day complete. Before they leave, I would take them for Dinner to Vickery Park in historic downtown Plano. Afterwards a decadent treat at Better than Sex, a dessert and fine cocktails restaurant right across the street. And if lucky a night cap or after dinner drink at the Fillmore Pub right next door…. where frequently you can sit and listen to live music from their patio which is adjacent to an outdoor pavilion that artists and musicians perform at during the seasonally warm months. Lockharts, Jorges, XO coffee, Urban Crust, Zalats are just a few of the other high quality places in downtown Plano to visit! Lovely people, great food… perfect ambiance. I highly recommend all of them really.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
Two people who never get any credit in all the various interviews I’ve done are my parents whose unending and tireless obsession with intellect and education most definitely created my voracious appetite for creativity and adventure. Words fall short of expressing the vastness of what is obviously their creation, ironically since originally I thought it was rebellion or at the very least deviation. But upon careful consideration I see that their defiance to live a life of ordinary complacency influenced my ability to see the world in a much different way.
Danny Stygion and Elizabeth Raab took these pictures