We had the good fortune of connecting with Elaine Candeloro and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Elaine, as a parent, what have you done for you children that you feel has had the most significant impact?
Let me start off by saying that my husband and I have seven children. That’s a whole lot of opportunity to impact! It’s also a whole lot of opportunity to mess up. (Full transparency–we have tons of experience in both.) When I was pregnant with my first daughter I was filled with starry-eyed ideas about specific ways I would raise my children to be kind, thoughtful, creative, and well-adjusted members of society. She turned out to be every bit of that, but that isn’t because of my parenting abilities. (No, I still don’t have a clue what I’m doing!) They have all been raised slightly differently because they are all individuals. We have artists, musicians, comedians, entrepreneurs, and athletes. Our kids are outgoing, shy, considerate, sneaky, headstrong, bold, emotional, intuitive, and industrious. It turns out that for our family there is no special secret formula to impacting our children. Our kids are who they are, and our best bet is to love them for that. So we encourage them to take hold of the things that define each one of them uniquely, and to defy barriers. As a 20 year military family we have had to learn to adapt to many environments. We try to model flexibility, problem-solving, and utilizing one’s strengths to overcome challenges. Our kids are resilient and I have no doubt that they are all equipped with the ability to succeed by being true to themselves.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
For the past 3 1/2 years I have been practicing as a Certified Nurse Midwife at Inanna Birth & Women’s Care in Denton. Anyone who practices as a midwife knows that it is a calling. It is incredibly rewarding, but definitely challenging and at times exhausting. Midwives put our heart and soul into helping to grow a family–and we do nurture the entire family, not just the birthing parent. At the end of the pregnancy and postpartum period it is always so sad to say goodbye. This prompted me to return to school to become a Family Nurse Practitioner so that I could expand my scope of practice and allow our babies and families to continue to get healthcare in the same location. I’m so proud to say that I just opened Redbud Family Health and am now seeing newborns, children, and adults! There aren’t many birthing centers that are able to offer care for the entire family. There is something special about being able to watch the babies that I catch grow. It makes me feel like I’m part of something big. One thing that sets us apart from other practices is that we offer house calls. This has become especially important during these unusual circumstances surrounding COVID-19. Getting to this point has not been easy. I had no idea just how much is involved in running a business. I have spent months googling and networking and waking up in the middle of the night adding to my to-do list. For every task that I complete, ten new tasks turn up in its place. I’m new at owning a business, but here is what I have learned so far: 1) It is so important to use your resources. I have been fortunate to have many mentors–women who run their own businesses while caring for patients and juggling their own families. I have been able to benefit from their wisdom, and that has been more useful than anything I can Google. 2) Know when to turn it off. Ohhhh, I’m still trying to figure this one out, but I believe it is going to be absolutely essential to finding a work/life balance. Emails can wait. Phones can go on silent. Even a short time of my undivided attention is far more useful than hours of distracted presence when it comes to my family. Taking moments for joy is revitalizing and makes me better at everything that I do.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
There is so much to explore in the DFW area. I have only been living here for a few years so I’m still uncovering all the hidden gems. Even though I live in Denton, it is still one of my favorite places to hang out. The Denton square has tons of restaurants, outdoor patios, food trucks, and there is often live music. Since Denton is home to two Universities there is always something going on. Stop by Eastside with your dog for a beer outside, and then hit up Gnome Cones for (no kidding) world’s best snow cone (and I do consider myself to be a snow cone connoisseur!). The Day of the Dead festival or Jazz festival is absolutely worth checking out. My family and I love to spend time outdoors. The are plenty of parks and trails off Lewisville Lake. We often load up kids, dogs, and kayaks and explore the many areas that are perfect for picnics, swimming, and making bonfires. Little Elm has a great sandy beach with volleyball courts and a playground. It is a beautiful spot to launch a kayak (which you can rent), and it definitely gets bonus points from being just across the road from the Margarita Hut. The Turkish Cafe in Frisco is a must try on a Saturday evening. It something that you can easily miss as it is inconspicuously located in a strip mall, but the inside is filled with beautiful lanterns that lead you to an open patio with a faraway feel. Go for the Turkish food–they have the most amazing selection of appetizers and platters that are too big to finish. You can enjoy hookah, and in the evening the belly dancers join the crowd and the dance floor opens up.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
There are so many influential people in my life and without them I would not have been able to accomplish a fraction of what I have done so far. My midwifery partner and mentor Jean Sala Smith, CNM has been invaluable in allowing me to grow as a midwife and has been very supportive in my endeavors as a family nurse practitioner. I’m also very grateful for the mentorship of Shantelle Lawler, FNP & Kelly Fox, FNP. They have consistently believed in me and trusted me with their patients, as well as taught me to approach my patients holistically. Jan Stalder, FNP has shared her business expertise, has given me confidence, and most importantly has sparked my sense of adventure. Finally, of course, my husband and hero, Anthony, who deserves all the recognition for continuing to encourage me and share his time to make sure my dreams become a reality.
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