We had the good fortune of connecting with La’ Shae Alexander and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi La’ Shae, how do you think about risk?
I love this question because you can’t talk about risk without talking about fear and that’s something I have had to overcome in more ways than one. The beautiful thing in it all is that on the other side of fear is courage. Being a risk taker is choosing to face fear and overcome fears with every chance we take. It’s going against the grain and doing what you dream of doing.
For me, risk taking has showed up in my life and career in so many ways. I recently put myself out there (if you will) and decided to do something I’ve been afraid of doing for a long time and that’s become a Sex Educator. It has already been rewarding even as a student because I am learning about the ways we connect despite our differences. I look forward to teaching in classrooms and professional settings. I also am looking forward to sitting down with adults who like myself only had a narrow lens of education presented to us to discuss how Sex Education helped shape our views on our own sexuality. As adults, sex and sexuality has changed and broadened in ways we couldn’t have dreamt of knowing let alone understand, but I’m happy to say the healthy conversations I am having are bringing much needed understanding to the forefront.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
I have spent many years doing things I am good at but I am finally in a space of doing what I love. More than often we normalize just being good at something, competitive for the next opportunity and being able to get paid for it, but very rarely do we encourage, push others and ourselves to find our passions.
I would tell anyone watching me who may think I have it all together that it took a lot to get to this pint. It has not been an easy journey for me, I have written in the dark for many years, watching hundreds of hours of documentaries from all over the world, writing reflection pieces on the connections between spirituality, psychology and sociology and their influences on sex and sexuality. My tipping point was the sleepless nights I’d have because all of these concepts, theories and information were running through my mind. I had to get them down on paper and I had to get them out. My thoughts came out through the many conversations I had with men and women over the years who confided in me with their thoughts and experiences that would have otherwise been judged by society. This made me question myself and my purpose, I felt like I was being selfish at best by hoarding information and not showing up as my whole self. I was hiding a part of myself that had helped so many people behind closed doors that I wanted to make myself available for those who don’t have anyone who can provide the education and resources so they themselves can stand in their truth as whole beings.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
Well because I’m in San Francisco, I have to say the Ferry Building and the surrounding area. The Exploratorium is one of my favorite places to visit because they host these unconventional discussions and events, one was centered around Marijuana (and though I do not partake I am fascinated with the evolution of the taboo) I’d also invite them to a late night Art event with IVY, a social club that I am a part of. I’ve met some of the most interesting people from all over the world, who have taught me about wine, art, travel destinations and more. It’s one thing to learn from a book but when you learn from people it builds relationships and creates unforgettable experiences and memories. After a few fun tourist spots in SF, we’d head to Napa for the remainder of the week for spas that included massages, facials and pedicures. We’d also enjoy wine and the beautiful scenery. Sometimes just stepping outside of it all is the best thing you can do. Vacations are to relax so we’d do just that and talk about an array of things.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I have an archive of people who have helped push me along this journey. ‘Erotic Integrity’ by Claudia six was the first book I picked up that didn’t just touch on the physical pleasures of sex, it challenged my integrity and thought process around me being a healthy and whole woman who partakes in the act. From that book I learned how to be true to myself in every aspect. Now I won’t step into something unless I show up whole. I also have to give huge accolades to Bell Hooks, Audre Lorde, and Adrienne Maree Brown and the many women who lived in their purpose and created spaces for education around Black womanhood. We are multifaceted and there is room for everyone. If I’ve learned anything form these women it is to be unapologetically me and in the space of Sex Education never stop advocating for what is right, always learn and always be willing to grow.
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