We had the good fortune of connecting with La Toya Carter and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi La Toya, we’d love to hear about how you met the person you love.
I actually met my husband online. It was either Black People Meet or Plenty of Fish. At the time I had profiles on both so I can’t be totally sure. He saw my profile on both and we now joke that he chased me around the internet. He messaged me and was very nice and you know how it goes, messages in the platform move to texts, and calls, and I believe we were using Voxer back then too. Then we had our first date at Chillis (we later got engaged there). Fun fact I was like an hour and a half late. I was working at a community mental health center and had a crisis with a client. He waited though! For him, it was love at first sight. It took me a little longer. The way he loved and still loves my daughter. The way he was willing to be uncomfortable to make me comfortable, and also the way he challenged me and helped me to grow is how I fell in love with him. It helps that he is an amazing cook. I tell people he sprinkled a little love potion in my chicken and the rest is history.
What should our readers know about your business?
I am in the business of being a professional helper. As a Licensed Professional Counselor I see individuals and couples most often when they are at their lowest point. I love that I bring practical actionable steps to assist with change and not just theories I read about in school or empty cliche quotes. My clients say it is like talking to their educated best friend. It has been a journey getting here and it definitely was not easy. I started as a single mom fighting to finish a Bachelor’s degree. I went on to get my Master’s and worked in Community Mental Health as an unlicensed clinician for years. The road to gaining licensure status was met with several setbacks including financial burdens moving to a different state, having my clinical hours questioned as well as my degree, to say the least. I have an amazing support team in my family. The encouragement to not give up has been invaluable. My husband paid for one of my tests and helped me study. Also even though it has been years my college advisor, and my old supervisor both were able to track down paperwork as needed. I learned if it is really your passion you find a way to be successful no matter the roadblocks. I want people to know it doesn’t matter where you start or what others say about you on your journey you can be successful. I want people to know it is ok to not wait until crisis time to seek help. Counseling can be used as a preventative tool just like going to see your primary care physician. I really want to continue to end the stigma surrounding mental health treatment.
Any great local spots you’d like to shoutout?
I am definitely a homebody but if they came all this way I could make it fun. We would definitely go shopping. I like the Parks Mall and the outlet mall in Grand Prairie. Let’s see we could go to the Epic in Grand Prairie as well as she is a mother now and that place has a ton of things to do with your family. So we might as well go to the zoo to tire the kiddos out. Then we have to find food so a trip to FUEL CITY is a MUST!!!! They have the best tacos EVER, and the street corn is perfection. Other local spots we could hit up include One Love lounge and JJs both of those are nice chill spots. She likes the Cowboys so she would kill me if we didn’t go to the stadium. After that, I would then have to call my friend LaMia she is a walking directory and ask her where to go lol.
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
My family. Being a wife and a mom has stretched me in ways I cannot even describe. They have pushed me when I was being lazy, encouraged me when I was down, hugged me without saying a word, and forced me to change for the better, My daughter who is now 15 is a huge reason why I am successful. I had her so young, and knowing her life depended on me was the motivation I needed to save my life and put me on the road to becoming who I am now.
Other: Psychology Today- bit.ly/therapisttoya My book- bit.ly/wifeguidebook
Jeff Gilyard, Talya Deshay
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