We had the good fortune of connecting with Dr. Jane Tornatore and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Dr. Jane, is your business focused on helping the community? If so, how?
Indeed it is! When I was in my early 20’s my sister dragged our family to a family therapist. The therapist started the session saying her job is to put herself out of business. Since I was working on Madison Ave in New York City at the time, this made NO sense. The therapist went on the explain that she helped families become healthy. The kids, if they have children, would create healthier families. If those kids had children, they would be healthier, and on and on, until healthy families spread around the world and she would be out of a job. That day I decided to quit my advertising job and go to school to become a family therapist. There are so many things we cannot control in the world, but we can choose how we live and act. Our choices and influences on the world matter. I sometimes look at everything going on in our world and I feel helpless. Then I remember that the healthier I am, the better my relationships and influence in the world will be. I always have a choice as to how I affect the world, no matter how wacky or unbalanced it gets. So, my job as a therapist and teacher is to help individuals learn how to have more compassion for themselves, so they can have more compassion for others, and those others can have compassion for others, and on and on. My work is to spread compassion in the world, until I am out of a job.
What should our readers know about your business?
My business is Every Day Love. I provide simple tools to help people love themselves more deeply than they ever thought possible. I am thrilled when I help burned-out, overgiving, overachieving, exhausted women to love and accept themselves, so they have more energy and love to give to those that are important to them.
In order to help others deeply love themselves, I chose to uncover and love those parts in me I judged as unworthy and unlovable. I teach what I learned. The lessons weren’t easy, but they were worth it. My motto is: “Love yourself now. You don’t have to wait.” It is time for all of us to deeply know, for real, that we are lovable, valuable, and worthy now…not when we reach that goal, or get that relationship, or make that income.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
I would take them to Discovery Park. It contains prairie, woods, and the ocean. It is a place of wonder and peace.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
Master’s in Clarity gets my shoutout. Dolores Hirschmann and her team are the reason I moved beyond just seeing clients in my office to writing a book, and creating on-line courses so I can help more people.
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