We had the good fortune of connecting with Lisa Scott and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Lisa, as a parent, what have you done for you children that you feel has had the most significant impact?
Being the mom of 3 boys I know the most impactful thing I’ve done is let my boys be a witness to my confidence as a plus size woman. My boys have seen me weigh a lot less than I do at this current moment. However they have never seen me lacking confidence. Nor have they experienced me feeling inferior being a plus size woman. I let them see my struggles but I also show them how I’m making improvements to get where I want to be. I’m currently working out, making better food choices and overall revamping my lifestyle. However no matter what size I am I continue to thrive and take time to care for myself. I emphasize to my children rather you’re male or female self care, self esteem and your confidence level is your individual responsibility to yourself. Don’t look for anyone else to help you take care of your mental and physical health. That is your job you must do for yourself to have a healthy life. Everything starts from our thoughts we entertain.

Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
I have spent the majority of my life as a plus model appearing in print, commercials and working as a brand ambassador. My life’s work, my passion and purpose is telling my story. I begin at my teen years, middle school was a turning point for me physically and mentally. I was extremely active, for I was involved with dance and cheerleading but I was always more voluptuous than my peers. I honestly never felt inadequate or inferior until someone else pointed out my size and made it a issue. I felt I was constantly having to battle the world to be apart of it. Being very young and having to deal with all these grown up feelings about your body is strange for a teenager. It definitely is not anything I should have been so overly focused on at that time. That’s why I wrote my book “The Life of Asil” about my life beginning right at that point of pivot. This is a book of teen angst, pressure, and body shaming. Asil is Lisa spelled backwards. It’s easier to tell someone else’s story than your own sometimes. I knew I had a story to tell young teen girls. I was able to overcome and thrive being a sometimes plus size teen. After I wrote my book which is available on Amazon I started calling middle schools in Texas and other cities asking can I send my press kit asking how can I get an invite to speak at the school. I also sent churches my press kit detailing who I was my background and what my workshop consisted of. As I started visiting different schools speaking to teachers, counselors and the girls. I realized low self esteem, body image was not a “plus size” issue it was a universal issue. I was stunned when I talked with these young women. Many stories of not feeling supported at home, school and not feeling there was anyone to talk about their feelings. Low self esteem was prevalent and insecurities were high. Many girls feel unworthy of love and are already disliking their bodies. Yes of course I knew I would reach a young girl who was feeling a little low but I wasn’t expecting such a broad spectrum of low confidence in girls as young as 13. My workshops are no longer about me but about them. My main goal is to create a safe space. I encourage them to understand they were given a voice to help someone else just like me. There was no reason so many of them were in the same school, sometimes the same classes and feeling shame. I let them understand that we are all the same. Everyone has something they are dealing with in their life. No one is perfect and sharing and expressing our feelings with a good friend and someone we can trust is beneficial. I am constantly asked how are you so confident what can I do to become more confident. I always tell them the confidence was always there it was hidden away because I was afraid of my own voice. I explain to them never be afraid of your feelings or voice is yours and you own it. It’s a muscle that has to be used or it can’t bring them any strength. My workshop concentrates on valuing yourself, setting boundaries and respecting your feelings. Again I tell them the same thing I tell my boys, create and envision the life you want and what will it take to reach your goals. Will beating yourself up or devaluing your feelings help you to reach a goal? How we support ourselves and thoughts are a huge play in the energy we put out in the world. Trusting and respecting ourselves will never let us down.

Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?

I would definitely take my best friend to the Dallas Farmers Market to browse, shop and eat.The Shed is one of my favorite places. I love visiting the Dallas Zoo so that would be on my itinerary. The Reunion Tower, The Dallas Arboretum and Botanical Garden are such great places to bring a friend. More than likely my friend would enjoy a 24 hour stay at Kings Spa and get the full body scrub and enjoy some of their other amenities. I definitely would take my friend to The Free Man Cajun Cafe & Lounge. Maple Landing is another fav. Of course a couple of visits to Pappadeaux Seafood Kitchen, and the Grapevine Bar for drinks. My best friends lives in NYC so I know they wound throughly enjoy these places.

Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I have to shout out my (3) boys. They keep me young at heart. They have very busy active schedules of basketball, school events and occasional parties. They love for me to be present at whatever they have going on. I know if they were not around I would probably be doing a lot more sitting on the couch watching Television. Not out and about enjoying my community & connecting with people like I do.

Website: https://www.amazon.com/Life-Asil-Book-1-ebook/dp/B07F9SXPLQ
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/B_9EogIDsLN/?igshid=l2ue0uup1txm
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/denimplus.lisa
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/TheShoppingSlayer
Other: https://thelifeofasil.com/

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