We had the good fortune of connecting with Katie Kinsley and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Katie, do you have some perspective or insight you can share with us on the question of when someone should give up versus when they should keep going?
I’ve struggled with imposter syndrome since I found out what the definition was. It’s the feeling of being a fraud and/or you don’t measure up. I’ve worked my last three jobs of feeling this way because of the situations I’ve been a part of. I’ve been working in digital marketing for over six years, but I’ve never my coworkers and managers make me doubt myself and my abilities.
When overwhelming thoughts of anxiety and burnout creep up, it’s often my first thought to give up. To walk away from it all (because I’ve convinced myself that there’s something better out there).
I always have to stop myself. I have to disengage in order to clear my head. I have a perfectionist personality and, coupled with people-pleasing tendencies, I have a hard time not taking things personally. I put my all into what I do and, though it may never seem enough, I have to tell myself that I did the work to the best of my abilities with the resources I have been given.
It’s easy to give up. But I don’t want to be the person that takes the easy road. I’ve only grown professionally because I didn’t give up. If something is important to you, then you need to assess what it’s going to take to keep going. If passion fuels you, then you don’t give up after a setback. You learn from that experience and take it with you as you keep going.
Can you open up a bit about your work and career? We’re big fans and we’d love for our community to learn more about your work.
I’ve been working in digital marketing with nonprofit clients for over six years. I am always ready to take on new challenges and learn new tools or skills.
I landed where I am today because I have been given the time to learn at each position and the space to manage the work on my own time. I do well under stress because I usually know what amount of work it takes to get the job done, but I also learned that working under stress isn’t not good for your mental health.
And constant stress leads to burnout, which can be crippling. That was a tough journey, but I learned who I can trust along the way. I learned that coworkers can take so much of you when you’re just trying to do a good job. Others don’t respect you and some are even manipulative. I also learned that you cannot do great things when you’re not given a team to help you reach those goals.
For the past year I’ve been working in a start up environment. It’s had its ups and downs, but, generally, my coworkers are always trying to reach and surpass our client’s goals.
One lesson I’ve learned along the way is to set boundaries. Don’t let others take away your time. And don’t get sucked into gossip. It’s not worth your time and goals.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
This one is difficult to say! It’s hard to recommend when Dallas/Ft. Worth offer so many different experiences. My father loves to come to the State Fair, which happens in September/October. But if my mom was visiting, I’d take her to the Fort Worth Botanical Gardens or the Dallas Arboretum for a low-key morning in the gardens (not stay too late because it gets too hot after noon).
The Fort Worth Stockyards had a lot going on events and restaurants and even some shopping. Deep Ellum in Dallas has a lot of different restaurants.
Then there’s all the things to do in the surrounding metroplex – like shopping/restaurants at Grandscape and the historic downtown Grapevine.
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I’ve been an introvert my entire life. Clubs just aren’t for me! My hobbies are writing for my blog and reading books – both very singular activities.
A couple years ago I wanted to pursue the hobby of photography. I found a group of girls in the Dallas/Ft. Worth area called Dallas Social Influencers (@dallas_social_influencers on Instagram). They hosted photography meetup events for you to create content together throughout the metroplex.
While I’m not longer focused on photography, I am still involved in the organization. They provide so many opportunities with local businesses that it forces me to get out of my little bubble. I have new experiences every month and a community that supports my personal goals and helps me break out of the “imposter syndrome” mentality. They motivate me to keep going.
My husband also deserves recognition for supporting me, even when some events go late during a weeknight or I have to drive so far that he has to pick up some extra chores are home. He’s so patient.
Please feel free to use any photos from Instagram – I don’t save a lot of photos to my harddrive!