We had the good fortune of connecting with Candace Jackson M.Ed and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Candace, how has your background shaped the person you are today?
I am originally from Fort Lauderdale , Florida. I grew up in a two parent home until I was 10 years old. My mom was a Home Health Nurse and a Pastor . My Dad was a Fireman and a Minister. At the age of about 8 my mom discovered my Dad’s drug habit and cheating . She stuck with him trying to work it out but as our stuff began disappearing she decided that she could no longer be with him. I was a Daddy’s girl. We would ride bikes to the park. We would play connect four together . We would sing together. So , the loss of my father in the home was tremendous to me . My mom struggled to balance her relationship with me and the church. I wasn’t taught what healthy relationships look like. I was only taught to keep my legs closed. My mom wasn’t a nurturer either. I had to reach out for hugs and some sort of real affection . My mom kept me away from my father because she was scared of what would happen to me. This left me only able to really talk to my grandmother about what was going on with me. I started to rebel at school for the lack of connection with my mom. I was envious of the relationships she grew with her patients and congregation over me. Looking back , I snowballed into allowing myself to be devalued. I got into an abusive marriage because I just wanted to feel some since of family and love. Throughout my marriage I hosted REAL talks in my house. This where people had a safe space to talk about their relationships with no judgement . We gleaned information from whatever and began to troubleshoot why our relationships weren’t working the way they should . I finished my degree in Elementary Education but discovered my passion for counseling people. When I returned to school for my Masters I decided to get in curriculum and instruction thinking that I would continue to educate children. By the time I finished , I was a Bedroom Kandi consultant focusing on helping couples in the bedroom. The door opened to get my Certification as a Clinical Sexologist, then a relationship and Life coach. I am using my experience from childhood, my marriage (domestic abuse survivor) , my teaching children for 10 years , and my education to change the lives of couples for healthy relationships. I am also making strides in helping women navigate dating after divorce. I was married for 15.5 years and the dating scene is vastly different . I discovered that so many men and women were just like me … lost and trying to figure it out. I figured out what works for me and help others to do thee same. Lasty, my one of my passions is creating a safe space tor our youth to have open an honest conversations about sex to keep them safe. God has been good in this season and there are more lives to save by work that I am doing.
What should our readers know about your business?
Candyology Coaching Services motto is Saving Relationships , Saving Lives . I specialize in putting the oooohs and ahhhs back into your relationship. I do this by helping you to foster better communication in your relationship. When I became a Certified Clinical Sexologist I knew that niche would be a little different . I am a marriage boot camp coach w/ Jim and Elizabeth CarrolI . I am a Mocha Marriage Trainer and a Wedding Officiant. I watched my mom and godmother counsel people in the church . I knew that no one was really talking about healthy relationships , healthy sex lives and people sometimes didn’t seek out help. When it comes to sex it should not be taboo. It should be something that is talked about in a healthy way from the time a child is born and well after they are married . I run into to people that have been married for 10 years and still aren’t being sexually satisfied. They are scared, ashamed , ang guilty just to name a few things. I break barriers because I am focusing on pre marital and marital counseling . I am pushing the envelope to change the mindset of couples and assist them into clear , effective communication about everything. It has not been easy . I am a person that has no shame about sex , sex educator , or diving into the world openness . So , as a member of the praise dance team , the choir , and Sunday school for kids , I got talked about and even shamed for what I am doing. I kept going. I continue to show people that person is about HEALTHY relationships not just about intimacy. It is my experience and my education that sets me apart. I have lived through everything that I specialize in and bring a different prospective from those that just have the book knowledge. I host a radio show called Candyology Love, Sex and Relationships where people can come listen in on topics that they may be going through and gets some help that way.
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
As someone that can sing, I am a karaoke girl all the way. I like to create spaces for that and visit some of the places around the city . I am also a lounge girl. I love this new spot that is a hookah lounge and dance hall in Addison. If I get out of my seat and put my hand up , I am having the time of my life. I love Kitchen and Kocktails vibe downtown. I am a fan of the restaurant 54th in Euless. Snooze downtown Dallas is our joint for some good food and positive vibes. Due to covid , we haven’t been out as much as we used to but we create a space at someone’s house and party hard. Catch me at the pool in KingSpa or Spa Castle at least once or twice a month. Live bands and good food will have me at someone’s venue in a New York minute. At times I am the life of the party and other times I am just laying back enjoying just being in the company of solid people.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I don’t think that I would have stepped out on faith for a few things if it had not been for multiple people . Melanie Druery Allen is an amazing business coach. She helped me to get out of my head and remember that I am dope. Rhonessia Johnson, LMFT for just being the best friend that I needed and always there. Angie Calhoun Mitchell for her support and giving me the gift her her child who is my assistant . My assistant Monique Mitchell , who has countlessly saved my life in so many ways its ridiculous . My other bestfriend and business partner Linard Anderson III for being my sounding board for different ideas . Amber L Dixon , LPC for going through the fire with me and letting God continue to use her. Kandi Burruss for Bedroom Kandi . I would have not met Dr. Rachel (DrRachealinstitute.com ) and become the Certified Sexologist had not Kandi created her amazing line that I am still a consultant of . Jim and Elizabeth Carroll of Marriage Boot Camp where I am a coach. I get the amazing opportunity be a apart of lives being transformed in 4 days. Kimberly Hortado who introduced me to Marcus Bell and his amazing program that has me doing this article today. My son Collin G. Jackson for being the fuel for why I continue to have these needed conversations with people. SO many to thank but the last one definitely goes to the late Willie Roger Price . My father pushed me and believed in me . I am forever indebted to him.