We had the good fortune of connecting with Bethany Clemenson and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Bethany, can you walk us through the thought-process of starting your business?
I worked in corporate prior to taking the leap into entrepreneurship and the process was a long one for me. I am a coach and speaker but started off as a nurse. I was working in senior living and no matter what I achieved, I didn’t feel good enough. I was hustling for my worth. I won awards and was considered a leader amongst my peers but no matter how many promotions, awards, or raises I got, it never led to fulfillment. Meanwhile, I was sitting with people as they faced the end of their lives and heard story after story of their lives that seemed to always end with a “but”. I had a good life….”but”. After the “buts” came things like: I always wanted to be a teacher but my parents said I should get married, so I did. I wanted to see the Grand Canyon but my spouse didn’t like to travel so I didn’t go.  I wanted to make a bigger impact but I was afraid. I wanted to learn to dance. The list goes on and on. The “buts” were all the unfulfilled dreams and as I began to see the pattern, I started to investigate my own life and realized that I was headed the same direction.

Whose life was I living? What was I doing? 

I had reached a point where it looked like I was killing it from the outside but on the inside, it was killing me. I needed help. I didn’t want to die with a list of “buts”. I wanted to feel fulfilled. I was exhausted by all the husting and proving. I began working with a coach and it changed everything for me. My mind was blown as I learned about mindset, faulty beliefs, programming, emotional conditioning, and energy management. My life began to change drastically and I started sharing what I was learning with anyone who would listen.
As I became more aware, my family and I started to dream together in different ways and we decided that this “prescribed life” wasn’t what we wanted.  As we were navigating what we did want for our lives, I obtained certifications as a coach and speaker and started a side-hustle doing it.
The final big push for me happened when I was sitting with the owners of the company I was with for a review. My review was excellent but they had one request, ..they wanted me to stop my side hustle. I was a stellar employee and didn’t allow my side-hustle to interfere with my work but the owners knew the company growth was going to require more time from all of us. Out of respect for them (they are amazing humans) I decided to cancel my speaking engagements and end my coaching contracts. It was an extremely difficult decision. That night in the hotel room, I called home and was sharing the day’s events with my husband. As I was telling him about the owners request for me to stop my side-hustle and my decision to respect their request, I suddenly heard sniffles in the background. It was my 12-year-old daughter – my husband had had my on speaker and she had overheard our conversation. Through her tears, she said, “Mom, you love speaking and helping people. Why would you quit? I thought this was your dream?” I explained to her that I was doing it out of respect for my employer and that it was just for now and not forever. Then she said something that I will never forget, she said, “So this is what happens? You have a dream and a boss comes along and asks you to quit and you just do that? You give up your dream?” She was sad and angry all at the same time and the truth was, I was, too.
In that moment, I realized that I was talking the talk but not taking the risks and doing the things to fully go after my dreams. I had known for a while that I was supposed to step into coaching and speaking full-time but had been too consumed with fear to take the leap.
Over the next few months, it became crystal clear that my side-hustle had kept me going. I was deeply unfulfilled in my corporate role without it.
I continued to work with my coach during this time and he helped me navigate my fear and have a conversation with my family about the possibility of entrepreneurship. That conversation led to some huge decisions. It was several months after my review that I gave my notice at my corporate job. We sold what was once our dream house and most of our belongings, bought a motorhome, and traveled the US as a family for about a year. We chose fewer things and more adventure/connection and it was amazing! I stepped into entrepreneurship and haven’t looked back.
Today I help people create a life and business on their terms so they can get to the end of their life without having the “buts” of unfulfilled dreams. Entrepreneurship hasn’t been easy but it’s the most rewarding thing I have ever done. I get to do what I love and am so glad I listened to that whisper of more.

Can you give our readers an introduction to your business? Maybe you can share a bit about what you do and what sets you apart from others?
I am the owner of Big Life Resources and think what sets me apart is the fact that I am living proof of all the work I teach. I am a moment-by-moment practitioner of my work. I love designing containers that are safe for my clients. From my group programs to private executive coaching, the growth, and awareness that happens inside a space where you feel safe changes everything.

Was it easy? Uh…no. Entrepreneurship dredges up every limiting belief and fear on a consistent basis because you are constantly stepping out of what is familiar and trip wiring the fear response. Not easy but so incredibly worth it. I think it is vital to surround yourself with other people who will support and encourage you at a high level. that has been my saving grace on the hard days. Knowing you aren’t alone is a big deal.

I have learned how to see and feel the fear and take action anyway. I have my own model of success that I go back to when I feel stuck. Anyone can create their own success model by looking back to an achievement they had and tweezing out the things they had to do and how they had to show up to get there.

I have also learned that the beliefs that we formed in our younger years don’t ever go away but as you work on your personal growth, you see them when they come back to derail you and can choose how you show up regardless.

If you are not getting the results you want in your life, it is time to invest in yourself. Having a coach is something I always invest in. The results have been life-altering and the same thing happens for the clients I work with. Your life is up to you.

Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
I live in a tiny resort community in the Northwoods of Wisconsin. If a friend was coming to visit, I would put her upon one of our cabins on our lakefront property. (we purchased and are renovating a property on a recreational lake in Wisconsin that has multiple cabins). We would enjoy time on the water every day, walks in nature, and shopping at the local boutiques. I also may take her to a sunflower field maze at a local vodka distillery where we could sit outside and enjoy the beauty of the area. We would eat fresh food that was simple and have great conversations that included long comfortable silence. We would sit in hammocks under the big oak and pine trees and allow ourselves to slow down. I have found there’s so much to discover when you stop hustling and simply focus on being present.

The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
I would not be where I am today without the support and mentorship of my coach, Jeff Arthur. Jeff is the CEO of The Values Conversation and working with him taught me how to know who I am and create a life and business on my terms. I am forever grateful. Additionally I am forever grateful for my husband, Tom. He reminded me how to dream and has supported me along the way!

Website: www.bigliferesources.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethanyclemenson/

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bethanyclem/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/speakerbethany

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCZTxL4_EN6olWHtlxg0L1Ow

Other: Dialed In Podcast: https://pod.link/1469132887 @bethanyclem on Club House – Founder of The Empty Bucket Club

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