We had the good fortune of connecting with Amanda Averbeck and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Amanda, do you have a favorite quote or affirmation?
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin

I don’t know much about Anais Nin. I fell in love with these words when I was nineteen. I stumbled upon the quote free of context for the author or her writing during a social medial scroll. The words were nestled among roses in various stages of bloom. A tight rose bud. A partial blossom. A full bloom.

I paused. My eyes lingered and my stomach dropped. “That is exactly what I want.” I whispered under my breath. But I didn’t quite know how to choose it.

I was afraid to become the person I knew I could be. I yearned to be a counselor, but I kept hearing about the risk it would involve. “It’s so much schooling.” “You’ll have so much student loan debt.” “What would you have to offer anyway?”

Ok that last one was from my own head, but still…. The risk it took to blossom into the person I wanted to be appeared more painful than the risk it took to remain in a tight bud.

At the time, remaining in a tight bud felt safe, not risky.

Then I grew up. Over the next 15 years, I fell in love, I gave birth twice, I survived several bouts of depression, and many other traumatic or just plain difficult events. I was restless and dissatisfied but didn’t know why.

When I looked around at my life, I had everything society told me I should want. A loving husband, two wonderful and healthy children, a home, supportive friends, and family. What more could I possibly want?

In response to that question, the yearning to be counselor came bubbling to the surface again. What? This again? I thought I gave this up.

Then the quote made sense.

“…the risk to remain in a tight bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

All the other things I had chosen in my life were good things. I would not change them. I also chose them because they were safe. They were what I was “supposed to do” as a woman of my age in my religious belief system. And I was called to more. That’s why I was feeling so restless. So dissatisfied. So in pain.

The act of ignoring my soul’s longing was causing the safety of the bud to become painful.
So I started embracing the pain of blossoming instead.

I realized there was pain either way. As a nineteen-year-old I still thought I could out-smart or out-run pain. As an adult, I realized pain was inevitable, but I had a choice.

I could have the pain of regret while staying in the safety of the bud. Or I could embrace the growing pains inherent with expanding into my potential.

I chose the latter. And I will never go back.

Today I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate and I have a thriving practice. I relish in my relationships with my husband, children, family, and friends. Most importantly, I treasure my relationship with myself and who I am becoming. It has brought a joy and peace to my soul I never knew was possible. I also feel honored to be blossoming into a guide for others on their journey to full bloom.

What should our readers know about your business?
The words “Authentically Rooted” just felt right. I’ve heard they are a mouthful, but when I was brainstorming counseling practice names, this combination of syllables and meaning gave the zing in my belly for which I was waiting.

These words don’t only convey what I hope to provide clients who find their way through my office doors, they also encapsulate what I need to be an effective counselor and a balanced human.

To me, being “authentic” means letting my true self manifest in the world through my relationships, in my work, and simply by being. Authenticity takes courage. Becoming courageous enough to be authentic requires a certain rootedness or grounding. For me, that rootedness comes from knowing myself in God. I’ve gotten to know myself by questioning and considering my thoughts and feelings about the “grey” areas in life when so many people want certainty with a black or white answer. This is where the phrase and name of my business becomes circular; the very act of rooting myself in God and sifting through my thoughts and feelings continuously deepens my courage for authenticity. By being rooted in myself, comfortable with uncertainty, and willing to stand in my authenticity, I can be like a solid post clients need to find their footing during a particularly windy storm. As they find their footing, they can also continue their journey of rooting themselves, growing in courage, and manifesting their authenticity in the world.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.

My best day in Fort Worth would start with a Honey Bee Latte at Lazy Daisy on Camp Bowie.

Then I would drive out to the Chiropractic Place for Mommy and Me in Aledo for a massage by Rachel Gabsi. Trust me, it’s worth the drive, y’all.

Back in the city, I would work up an appetite by hiking along the waterfall at Marion Samson Park. After spending a good amount of time contemplating life while watching the water flow and listening to the soothing sounds of nature, I would head to Magnolia Street for lunch at Cat City Grill. I LOVE their risotto. I could eat bowls of the stuff. “I’ll have the Salmon platter with the risotto, hold the salmon, please!” For dessert, I would go to Lily’s Bistro for their homemade donuts and coffee ice cream. Yum!

Next, I would head to the Botanic Gardens and just meander. If they had an installation, like The Lego Exhibit they had last summer, that would be amazing. If it were summertime, I would plan to have a picnic dinner at the park with friends and family while attending Concert in the Gardens. Any of the shows are great, but if it were the Star Wars laser show it would make my night!

Who else deserves some credit and recognition?

I want to “Shout Out” to all the people who have supported me in my life and during my journey of becoming.

First and foremost, I want to thank my husband, Tim Averbeck, who has steadily stood by me through all the ups and downs. I could not ask for a better life partner.

I also appreciate my children for sharing their joy and sorrow with me and making me a mom.

I am so grateful for my best friend, Kathleen Copeland, who has been there to share in my joy of success and in the pain when things fell apart.

And to Keli Truelove, another best friend, thank you for always listening and giving honest feedback as I process through my thoughts to find my voice.

I want to thank my therapists from the past and present who have guided me and continue to guide me through my becoming, Mary Fierst, Jim Blue, and Linda Lucas.

I am grateful for my former and current spiritual directors, Nathan Stone, Carol Ackels, and Lynn Sowers, who led me and continue to lead me to the Spirit.

I want to thank Deacon Scott France for believing in what he calls my “beautiful mind” before I did.

I want to say “Thank you” to my professors at Texas Wesleyan University who taught me how to humbly accept the calling of being a counselor.

I am also exceptionally grateful for Dr Misti Sparks, my supervisor, for relentlessly encouraging me to become myself and take the risks I want to take to get to where I want to go.

I appreciate my in-laws for taking on extra grandparenting duties during particularly challenging legs of my journey to become a counselor.

And last, but not least, I want to thank my parents and siblings and siblings in law. I am grateful to my parents for encouraging me to discover my purpose and to go for it. I am also thankful to be surrounded by life and love in my big family and my siblings’ big families.

Website: https://www.authenticallyrootedcounseling.com/Home

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Image Credits
Callie Camfield for photos of me

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