We had the good fortune of connecting with Ana Rodriguez and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Ana, what matters most to you?
If I have two is it cheating? Well I’m doing it anyways because I do not believe that I can have one without the other. The values that matter most to me are connection and my intuition. They are dynamic and dependent on the other. They both guide me and map out my deepest desires. That’s why I know I need both, and why I counsel with both principles. Although I could get into the systemic nature of our society and its value of individualism, I hold an older, collectivistic viewpoint for how we were created to survive. I combine both the study the Western sciences and Eastern philosophies to explain my point. If we learn about our nervous systems and read up on evolutionary psychology, trauma informed attachment science, and polyvagal theory (something I do for fun), we learn that we are literally designed to seek safety in others for our survival physically and emotionally. It is important to distinguish the difference between solitude and isolation. Solitude is a practice of gratitude and wellness in the relationship with ourself, whereas isolation is the occurrence of loneliness and physical and/or emotional distance from others. Despite what American culture programs us to believe, dependency is not a bad word, and we need people to meet our needs because we weren’t designed to do life alone. (I think the time in quarantine throughout the COVID-19 pandemic has been the perfect example…too much isolation oftentimes can breed inner chaos.) Negative life events oftentimes convince us that other people are unsafe, and fear keeps us from connecting with them. Unfortunately, our brains tell us to stay away from others in order to be safe, when in reality seeking safety in [safe] people is what actually causes us find real healing and freedom. When we teach our bodies that we can indeed find safety in others, magic happens. Our nervous systems regulate, our bodies release tension, we feel understood and comforted, and we don’t feel so alone. This magic is being known by others, and finding connectedness and community with your chosen tribe. Intuition and inner knowing is something that is often studied in mindfulness, chakra, yoga and reiki practices originating from Eastern philosophies. Our intuition is our unique, fundamental, raw, true voice in our head that represents our authentic self and our desire. As women in this society, we have be programmed and trained to look outside of ourselves to dictate every choice from what we want in a partner, what body size is acceptable, how to speak, and what to believe in. Intuition is the path that allows us to connect to the whisper of our “real wanting”. It’s hard to do when our patriarchal society is screaming to constantly betray ourselves, because “wanting and desiring” more from a job, a relationship, or a lifestyle is shamed and deemed selfish. As women “we must not be selfish.” Cool society, thanks for f-ing me up with that narrative. Well, society, I’m sorry to say that I choose my intuition every time. I choose my safety, my balance, and my version of self-love. That in turn helps me love others better. I have a relationship with my intuition now as I’ve connected to practices of stillness, work/life balance, emotional awareness and mindfulness. I have a relationship with “her” and my body now in which the three of us are in constant communication. My body communicates a sensation, my thoughts communicate my conscious reality, and my intuition communicates my real needs and desires. If my body is anxious, she feels activated and feels off balance. My inner voice aligns with her and quietly whispers to me to slow down and check in with all three parts. I speak to both of them and listen, and listening to them allows me to take care of my body and my deepest emotional needs. For me connecting with my tribe who know me well encourages me in times that I doubt myself and can’t hear my intuition over societal messages, my inner critic or my voice of self doubt. Connection and friendly accountability helps me to hold myself accountable when I confuse my intuition with fear. I use my tribe to help me stay aligned and offer perspective, and then I check back into my intuition and body and make the ultimate call. It’s the ideal balance I have found in the relationship with trusting myself and others. It’s the best of both worlds.
Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
If there is anything I want the world to know about my my brand/ story is that everyone deserves a space to find safety and to find themselves. As a female therapist of color, I align to the ideals of acceptance and unconditionality. This is a space where all are welcome, but only if you want to really get down to the soul work. The deep work, the life altering, find out who you really want to be and how to heal from the rest, kind. of. work.
Any places to eat or things to do that you can share with our readers? If they have a friend visiting town, what are some spots they could take them to?
Afternoon fun: happy hour at Bowen House, the Victorian style small house for fancy drinks ,WhiteRock Dog park because being out in nature and taking care of the pups is how a good night always starts, my wine fridge and couch often make for the best happy hour and deep conversation Saturday morning; meditation outside followed by home cooked breakfast, get a good sweat in with Kat at Relentless Fitness in the Design District followed by a walk down Katy Trail with the pups, or hiking at Cedar Ridge Nature Preserve Afternoon fun: Dallas Museum of Art, picnic outdoors, pool and sunshine, or a show at Dallas Summer Musicals (I have a season pass because the more music, dancing and acting the better) Fancy dinner at some of my faves; Town Hearth, Alice, Americana, Taverna, Neighborhood Services, Gemma or St. Martin’s to name a few Fancy Sunday/Relax Day: Brunch downtown on a rooftop followed by The Spa at the Joule (the trick is to book a massage with your bestie at the same time, and you show up and chill in their saunas and heated pool with her and a good book where it smells like magic and you sip on your complimentary glass of champagne or green tea)
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
I am no one without the support and education from my family, both here and in Colombia. To both sides of my family, thank you for showing me security, unconditionality, culture, openness, food, and fun. To my lady tribe, thank you for the countless wine nights and deep talks, accountability and encouragement. To my friend and business partner, Amy Wineinger, thank you for going on this adventure with me and taking a risk together. To feminism and liberty, thank you for giving me the opportunity to challenge the status quo and have a platform to do so.
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