Meet Evie Shaw | Life Coach and STR Cabin & RV Owner

We had the good fortune of connecting with Evie Shaw and we’ve shared our conversation below.

Hi Evie, can you share a quote or affirmation with us?
Wow! I have several….. One that comes to mind is……

“The greater the grief/sorrow cares into your soul…
The more joy it can contain”

Ugh!….
It means that even though I have been thru HARD / EXCRUCIATINGLY HARD THINGS in my life…..

I am ok!

I am filled with JOY….

Filled with LOVE…..

Deep Love….

Because I have known deep love (love of a mother) and had my 3rd son pass away from cancer and DEEP LOSS.

I now know deeper LOVE and JOY and HAPPINESS…..

Before my son got cancer … I had been married for 26 years.
I wanted DESPERATELY to make my marriage work.

As a young girl, I dreamed of the HAPPILY EVER AFTER.

Not only did I dream and wish for it, it went deep inside and became my “mission” my focus, my drive. I was going to conquer this marriage thing..

I was going to make it work…. even though no one else in my family had…

I would be the one.

So, with that desire deep in my heart and more DETERMINATION than doubt…. I went about finding ways to make this marriage the BEST ever.

I read all the books. I made all the lists, I did all the things.

I checked all the boxes.

And then,….. I caught him cheating…

Now…. while i was that person who ALWAYS SAID. I will NEVER put up with that.

NO WAY.
WILL NOT HAPPEN.
That is A DEAL BREAKER….

etc..

Well, that was before it happened to me.

That was before i knew what i was saying.

That was before.

That was not in the “plans”.

That was not part of this “ideal marriage”.

So, in an effort to “conquer” this thing called marriage I set about to make it BETTER.

To figure out what I had done wrong to cause that to happen or what was broken in him that allowed it to happen.

Anyway…..

I had such high hopes that i could make it work, I just saw that as a step in the right direction.

It was BRUTAL/ PAINFUL /DEVASTATING/ EXCRUCIATING and all things similar,…

But, I was in this for the long haul….

So, I went about reading, studying, improving myself and searching for ways to make this whole thing BETTER.

ANYWAY……

kiddos came along.

life seemed GREAT

great family
great sons
good times
laughter
smiles
good stuff….

( however in the midst of this – my 3rd son had a blood disorder and medical needs)

then came affair number 2….

Still, more determination…..

hope
dreams
wanting sons to have their dad and not be from single parent home

we rocked on.

happy, laughs, etc….

then, in 2012 he leaves /but we stay married for four more years…

LONG LONG story.

all the while i was (((((((STUPID)))))) WISHING/HOPING/PRAYING etc… for reconcilliation

FINALLY, I realized nothing will change

he will always be this way

i will divorce…

I did and my 3rd son got cancer…

LONG LONG story

in 2018 my son passed away at age 17.. the other sons were 18 &19

it was AGAIN

BRUTAL
EXCRUCIATING
PAINFUL
DEVASTATING
CRUSHING
SAD
etc etc etc

But, i was not going to quit bc i still had two AMAZING sons.

So, I continued on

pushed thru the pain

plowed thru the sadness

etc….

and, i learned to LIVE again

a new life.

im doing things I COULD NEVER HAVE IMAGINED

I began a life coaching biz

in the depths of the pain.

I always thought ,

If i ever make it out of this pain, i will show/tell others they can too

so, that is what i do and in and amongst the life coaching and putting it all into practice, i stumbled into VALUABLE LAND and have built a SPECTACULAR rental property.

Along the way, i began to rent out my Rv and that is how i made money after covid ( i was a first grade teacher in 2019-20)

and now, my life is RICH AND FULL and i am happy deep inside.

because i knew great love – the love a mother has for a child.

him leaving did not take it from me

it actually added more love into me.

He was amazing, a fighter, a warrior, a hero,

My hero.

My life is richer and fuller bc i knew him.

Another quote that is ONE OF MY FAVES….

” HOW blessed I AM TO HAVE LOVED SOMEONE SO MUCH THAT MADE SAYING GOODBYE SO HARD.”

AND

“Better to have LOVED and LOST than NEVER TO HAVE LOVED AT ALL”

He taught me how to live.

and now, I must live well to HONOR HIM and my other sons….

And i want to help other people out there who are HURTING /broken/sad/ devastated.

I want them to know it will be ok

It can be BETTER THAN OK

and ANOTHER FAVE QUOTE

” it’s ALL about choices”

we ALL have to choose every day MANY TIMES A DAY how we are going to handle this or that situation

We can choose BITTER OR BETTER

HATE OR HOPE

FEAR OR BRAVERY

ANGRY/MAD or UNDERSTANDING

etc etc etc….

every min of every day WE CHOOSE….

every moment of every day we decide what thoughts we will think

how we will live

how we will treat others

EVERY SINGLE MOMENT….

CHOICES…..
another quote “there is a gift in every problem”

So, I choose to see “gifts’ …

All that I went through made me who I am today. I must have needed every moment of it – and so, here i am …..

believing that none of it happened TO ME …. it happened FOR ME……

and i want to let other hurting people know there is hope for them.

Good / Great life after pain and heartbreak

adventure and excitement after excruciating

power after pain

BUT….. IT IS A CHOICE

Alright, so for those in our community who might not be familiar with your business, can you tell us more?
My business is multi-faceted. I have the aspect of a Life Coach and Real Estate Investor.

What sets me apart from others is I offer Hope, Encouragement, and Inspiration. I am one of those people if I can do it, anybody can. I came from a situation where I was not encouraged to succeed, and not encouraged to go to college. I learned bitterness and anger. I could have gone that route, but when I saw that, it let me know what I didn’t want. So, I kinda spend a lifetime finding ways to be positive and do things differently.

I’ve always wanted to help people, so I got my Psychology degree thinking I was going some sort of social work. And then I got my masters in counseling, thinking I was going to do some counseling in the school system and possibly in the private practice. And then I got my teaching certification on top of that.
From there while I was teaching, I discovered Bob Proctor and became a Bob Proctor Consultant. And from putting into practice, the techniques and practices that Bob suggests by doing that I happened to be at the right place at the right time, and get my wheels turning to see how I could possibly buy some land.

Actually, it was easy. Once, I was a teacher and then became a Bob Proctor consultant that fell onto my lap. But I did begin, doing the practices Bob proctor talks about, that actually got me to Bob Proctor.

The lesson I’ve learned along the way is that there’s a gift to every problem. That what looks like a delay is actually not delayed time but fulfilled time. I’ve learned that when you begin something and you make a decision to do it, and you pursue that, everything that you need along the way will show up.

I want the world to know that everything that happens to us happens for a reason. Everything that happens in our lives happens for us and not to us. There’s a gift to every problem, that we have to look for the gift. That even when things look like they’re falling apart or they’re not going the way we think they should, they’re still working out. I believe that everything is always working out for our good and I want people to know that even though they have gone through hard times, or tragedy has happened to their lives, that is still ok. Not only it is ok, but very likely will be better. The times in life when we’re broken, open a way for our growth to come. It actually gets us closer to the person we want to become or a place where we always wanted to go. Even if they think their life has completely fallen apart, it’s not falling apart, it’s actually falling together, and you can still live Happily EVEN After you think your life has fallen apart. Not only just live it, but live it well. There’s a whole big world out there, with a whole lot of adventure. and that’s just waiting on you to go for it. So, there really is a good life after heartache and you can live Happily EVEN After.

Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
These are what we will do when my friends come to visit to show them the best time ever!

DAY 1:
The first thing that we would do would be to go to RUGARU zipline and go zip lining. And then we would go for lunch at The Bistro and Fishtales. They do have a free wine tasting. We would then go down into the park and ride the Beavers Bend Depot and Trail Rides. We would eat supper, go to the broken Tiki boat at the sunset tour and watch the sun go down as we ventured out into different parts of the lake that we couldn’t get to. We would then go back to the cabin, soak and relax in the hot tub at my favorite cabin Happily EVEN After.

DAY 2:
We would just have a relaxing morning in the Happily EVEN After Cabin. The best cabin in Broken Bow/ Hochatown. Drink coffee on the gazebo/silo and relax in the rocking chairs. We’re going to go kayaking, that’s going to take most of the day. After kayaking, we’re going to walk along some of the trails down in Beavers Bend State Park. And then we’re going to go back, get ready and we’re going to go eat at the Hochatown Saloon, they have good food. We may have shrimp, steak, and nachos, we may have a huge variety of food from the saloon. We might stay and after 9 when there’s dancing and do some dancing.

DAY 3:
We would go on a sunrise hot air balloon trip with Broken Bow Balloon Rides. Because we were out for the sunrise, we will go eat breakfast at Stephens Gap Restaurant. They have a variety of breakfasts. After we eat, we’re going to take a helicopter ride with Semper Fly Helicopter Tours, see the sites from up high, twice in one day, and view the beautiful Ouachita Forest from above. And then we’re going to have a mid-afternoon lunch at the Grateful Head. That evening, we would go eat at the Abendigos for supper, that’s fine dining, we might have a steak or a nice fancy meal.

DAY 4:
The next morning, we’re gonna get some coffee from Hochacup Coffee, then we’re gonna rent an ATV or a jeep with Bandits ATV and Boat Rentals, we’re just gonna go ridin’ throughout the state park. We may go to the Girls Gone Wild for wine tasting. And get some lunch at the corn dog stand called the Hocha Hut. We’re also going to do the Axe throwing, do an Escape Room, and a petting zoo. Rent a pontoon boat from Kelsey and Kurt. We’ll go bowling at Gutter Chaos. We would then get a massage from Body Harmony Spa before going back and enjoying the amazing night view from the cabin.

Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
My Sons – they were the reason I wanted to become the best wife and mom. I wanted to make them proud. I wanted them to ENJOY their life and our time together.

My Guy – Ron Baker- if it wasnt for him, I would not have RVs ( that has been my income for the past 2 years) He designed and built (GC) of my New Spectacular Cabin in Hochatown, OK

My friends …..

Website: https://www.happilyevenaftercabin.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happilyevenaftercabin/

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Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5I2Poo0g1JpBtV29uvcAMg

Image Credits
Jeremy West