We had the good fortune of connecting with Eden Hyder, LPC, EMDR Trained and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Eden, what role has risk played in your life or career?
For me, risk-taking has been fueled by a sometimes frustratingly undeniable desire for something different. It’s like those moments when you are telling yourself, “Don’t cry, don’t cry, don’t cry,” but as a safe person walks up and catches your eye, the emotion pushes through and the tears start pouring out. Not everyone puts it off until it becomes a dire need, but when the risk feels high, the anxiety of what could happen is often scarier than what does happen. Over time and with experience, the risks have become easier professionally, but harder personally, because I now have a husband and two children (and a dog) that those risks impact.
When I think of risk-taking, I wonder, as an adult, about my childhood. How were small risks encouraged or discouraged when I was a child? How was my competency, confidence, and curiosity nurtured? As kids we need to be allowed to take safe risks, but our parents often decide what a “safe” risk is based on their own anxieties and fears. I feel this with my own children today. As they climb up on top of a playhouse, I want to nurture the courage and determination while also teaching them about potential consequences. My (appropriate) trust in them as children becomes internalized as trust and confidence in themselves as adults. This also applies to my own business and how I approach my self. Most of the risks I have taken have been around changing careers, stepping out of corporate world, investing money in my own business, and promoting my competencies.
5 Questions I Ask Myself to Assess A Risk:
1. What do I WANT? (An emotional question: If there were no barriers, consequences, risks, what would I want to do. A lot of people avoid really digging into taking a risk, because they immediately write it off as impossible.)
2. What does the DATA say? (A rational question: If you haven’t checked numbers, cost, income, rent, really compared numbers, you’ve got to have this to inform this decision.)
3. If I take this RISK, what does this LOOK like? (A practical question: We often fail to get really concrete with what it would look like to make this decision because of fear.)
4. What is WORST case scenario? (A dialogue between rational and emotional: Worst case scenarios often FEEL worse than they would actually be in reality.)
5. How could this risk impact your PERSONAL life? (A future and relational question: We all have people around us, supporting us, and we have to consider the personal impact of these decisions. This also is a question about your mental health, your own self-esteem and resiliency—will you be okay if this doesn’t go well?)
What should our readers know about your business?
I am a therapist, mom and psychology teacher who is passionate about helping people live from the inside out. I focus on self-growth, understanding relationships, supporting parents, and general mental health. Part of that passion has been starting a podcast, Inside Out, over the past year and offering free support and therapy-informed intentionality behind understanding self, relationships and kids. I will be offering online courses on these topics so that anyone who wants to be supported in this journey, but don’t have access to a therapist or can’t afford ongoing therapy or coaching, can still learn some basics and build insight about themselves and their relationships.
I also own a group practice with my husband who is also a therapist, Inside Out Collaborative. We are licensed in Texas and North Carolina. We offer services related to anxiety, addiction treatment, eating disorders and issues, relationship struggles, and faith support, confusion and transitions. Some of the ways we treat these struggles is through EMDR therapy, interpersonal therapy, Internal Family Systems, CBT, DBT, other evidence-based and relational-based therapies.
We are looking to build our practice with additional clinicians who share our beliefs and approach to living inside out. We are both passionate about growing clinicians and therapists, offering supervision and consultation.
I am someone who loves new challenges and diversifying our services, so I think you will continue to see creative offerings from myself and Inside Out Collaborative over the next few years.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
EAT: – HG Supply
– Sixty Vines
– Meso Maya
– Pie Tap
VISIT:
– Perot Museum
– DMA
HANG OUT:
– Klyde Warren Park
– White Rock Lake
– Arbor Hills Nature Preserve
The Shoutout series is all about recognizing that our success and where we are in life is at least somewhat thanks to the efforts, support, mentorship, love and encouragement of others. So is there someone that you want to dedicate your shoutout to?
Lots of shoutouts here: As a woman who is passionate about being in the work world, I have needed strong women along the way to observe, consult and mentor me. Some of these women include Nathania TenWolde, Eli Harwood, Elizabeth McGarr, Heidi Boutros, Whitney Russell, Candace David, Nicole Woodhouse, and Malak Saddy. Personally, my parents for their support, my husband (and business partner), and my two girls who have, at times, struggled with my absence due to work. My voice teacher, growing up, Pamela Glaros, who nurtured my singing voice and my inner voice as worthy, competent and inspiring.
Website: http://www.edenhyder.com
Instagram: @edenhyder @insideoutcollaborative
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/insideoutcollaborative
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2l7Eb9WbVzfuf_2qA3Hnxg